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seven
things the lord hates
ADVICE
DESPISE
NOT THE CHASTENING OF THE LORD,
NEITHER
BE WEARY OF HIS CORRECTION,
FOR
WHOM THE LORD LOVETH,
HE
CORRECTETH.
EVEN
AS A FATHER, THE SON IN WHOM HE DELIGHTETH,
HE
THAT SPARETH HIS ROD HATETH HIS SON,
BUT
HE THAT LOVETH HIM,
CHASTENETH
HIM, BETIMES.
CHASTEN
THY SON WHILE THERE IS HOPE,
AND
LET NOT THY SOUL SPARE FOR HIS CRYING.
THE
BLUENESS OF A WOUND CLEANSETH AWAY EVIL.
SO
DO STRIPES, THE INWARD PARTS OF THE BELLY.
TRAIN
UP A CHILD IN THE WAY HE SHOULD GO,
AND
WHEN HE IS OLD
HE
WILL NOT DEPART FROM IT.
FOOLISHNESS
IS BOUND IN THE HEART OF A CHILD,
BUT
THE ROD OF CORRECTION SHALL DRIVE IT FAR FROM HIM.
WITHHOLD
NOT CORRECTION FROM THE CHILD,
FOR IF THOU BEATEST HIM WITH THE ROD
HE SHALL NOT DIE.
THOU
SHALT BEAT HIM WITH THE ROD AND
SHALT
DELIVER HIS SOUL FROM HELL.
THE
ROD AND REPROOF GIVETH WISDOM,
BUT
A CHILD LEFT UNTO HIMSELF
BRINGETH
HIS MOTHER TO SHAME.
CORRECT
THY SON AND HE SHALL GIVE THEE REST,
YEA
HE SHALL GIVE DELIGHT UNTO THY SOUL
From Proverbs
ADVICE FOR YOUNG MEN
Proverbs 2:16-22
16. To deliver thee from the strange woman, even from the stranger
which flattereth with her words; 17. Which forsaketh the guide
of her youth, and forgetteth the covenant of her God. 18. For
her house inclineth unto death, and her paths unto the dead. 19.
None that go unto her return again, neither take they hold of
the paths of life. 20. That thou mayest walk in the way of good
men, and keep the paths of the righteous. 21. For the upright
shall dwell in the land, and the perfect shall remain in it. 22.
But the wicked shall be cut off from the earth, and the transgressors
shall be rooted out of it.
Proverbs 5:1-23
1.
My son, attend unto my wisdom, and bow thine ear to my understanding:
2. That thou mayest regard discretion, and that thy lips may keep
knowledge. 3. For the lips of a strange woman drop as an honeycomb,
and her mouth is smoother than oil: 4. But her end is bitter as
wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword. 5. Her feet go down to death;
her steps take hold on hell. 6. Lest thou shouldest ponder the
path of life, her ways are moveable, that thou canst not know
them. 7. Hear me now therefore, O ye children, and depart not
from the words of my mouth. 8. Remove thy way far from her, and
come not nigh the door of her house: 9. Lest thou give thine honour
unto others, and thy years unto the cruel: 10. Lest strangers
be filled with thy wealth; and thy labours be in the house of
a stranger; 11. And thou mourn at the last, when thy flesh and
thy body are consumed, 12. And say, How have I hated instruction,
and my heart despised reproof; 13. And have not obeyed the voice
of my teachers, nor inclined mine ear to them that instructed
me! 14. I was almost in all evil in the midst of the congregation
and assembly. 15. Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running
waters out of thine own well. 16. Let thy fountains be dispersed
abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets. 17. Let them be only
thine own, and not strangers' with thee. 18. Let thy fountain
be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. 19. Let her
be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy
thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.
20. And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman,
and embrace the bosom of a stranger? 21. For the ways of man are
before the eyes of the Lord, and he pondereth all his goings.
22. His own iniquities shall take the wicked himself, and he shall
be holden with the cords of his sins. 23. He shall die without
instruction; and in the greatness of his folly he shall go astray.
Proverbs 6:20-35
20.
My son, keep thy father's commandment, and forsake not the law
of thy mother: 21. Bind them continually upon thine heart, and
tie them about thy neck. 22. When thou goest, it shall lead thee;
when thou sleepest, it shall keep thee; and when thou awakest,
it shall talk with thee. 23. For the commandment is a lamp; and
the law is light; and reproofs of instruction are the way of life:
24. To keep thee from the evil woman, from the flattery of the
tongue of a strange woman. 25. Lust not after her beauty in thine
heart; neither let her take thee with her eyelids. 26. For by
means of a whorish woman a man is brought to a piece of bread:
and the adulteress will hunt for the precious life. 27. Can a
man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? 28.
Can one go upon hot coals, and his feet not be burned? 29. So
he that goeth in to his neighbour's wife; whosoever toucheth her
shall not be innocent. 30. Men do not despise a thief, if he steal
to satisfy his soul when he is hungry; 31. But if he be found,
he shall restore sevenfold; he shall give all the substance of
his house. 32. But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh
understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul. 33. A
wound and dishonour shall he get; and his reproach shall not be
wiped away. 34. For jealousy is the rage of a man: therefore he
will not spare in the day of vengeance. 35. He will not regard
any ransom; neither will he rest content, though thou givest many
gifts.
Proverbs 7:1-27
1.
My son, keep my words, and lay up my commandments with thee. 2.
Keep my commandments, and live; and my law as the apple of thine
eye. 3. Bind them upon thy fingers, write them upon the table
of thine heart. 4. Say unto wisdom, Thou art my sister; and call
understanding thy kinswoman: 5. That they may keep thee from the
strange woman, from the stranger which flattereth with her words.
6. For at the window of my house I looked through my casement,
7. And beheld among the simple ones, I discerned among the youths,
a young man void of understanding, 8. Passing through the street
near her corner; and he went the way to her house, 9. In the twilight,
in the evening, in the black and dark night: 10. And, behold,
there met him a woman with the attire of an harlot, and subtil
of heart. 11. (She is loud and stubborn; her feet abide not in
her house: 12. Now is she without, now in the streets, and lieth
in wait at every corner.) 13. So she caught him, and kissed him,
and with an impudent face said unto him, 14. I have peace offerings
with me; this day have I payed my vows. 15. Therefore came I forth
to meet thee, diligently to seek thy face, and I have found thee.
16. I have decked my bed with coverings of tapestry, with carved
works, with fine linen of Egypt. 17. I have perfumed my bed with
myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon. 18. Come, let us take our fill of
love until the morning: let us solace ourselves with loves. 19.
For the goodman is not at home, he is gone a long journey: 20.
He hath taken a bag of money with him, and will come home at the
day appointed. 21. With her much fair speech she caused him to
yield, with the flattering of her lips she forced him. 22. He
goeth after her straightway, as an ox goeth to the slaughter,
or as a fool to the correction of the stocks; 23. Till a dart
strike through his liver; as a bird hasteth to the snare, and
knoweth not that it is for his life. 24. Hearken unto me now therefore,
O ye children, and attend to the words of my mouth. 25. Let not
thine heart decline to her ways, go not astray in her paths. 26.
For she hath cast down many wounded: yea, many strong men have
been slain by her. 27. Her house is the way to hell, going down
to the chambers of death.
Proverbs 9:13-18
13.
A foolish woman is clamorous: she is simple, and knoweth nothing.
14. For she sitteth at the door of her house, on a seat in the
high places of the city, 15. To call passengers who go right on
their ways: 16. Whoso is simple, let him turn in hither: and as
for him that wanteth understanding, she saith to him, 17. Stolen
waters are sweet, and bread eaten in secret is pleasant. 18. But
he knoweth not that the dead are there; and that her guests are
in the depths of hell.
Proverbs 11:22 As a jewel of gold in a swine's snout, so is a
fair woman which is without discretion.
Proverbs 12:4 A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but
she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.
Proverbs 14:1 Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish
plucketh it down with her hands.
Proverbs 22:14 The mouth of strange women is a deep pit: he that
is abhorred of the Lord shall fall therein.
Proverbs 23:26-28
26.
My son, give me thine heart, and let thine eyes observe my ways.
27. For a whore is a deep ditch; and a strange woman is a narrow
pit. 28. She also lieth in wait as for a prey, and increaseth
the transgressors among men.
Proverbs 30:20 Such is the way of an adulterous woman; she eateth,
and wipeth her mouth, and saith, I have done no wickedness.
Proverbs 31:3 Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to
that which destroyeth kings.
Ecclesiastes 7:26 And I find more bitter than death the woman,
whose heart is snares and nets, and her hands as bands: whoso
pleaseth God shall escape from her; but the sinner shall be taken
by her.
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WARNINGS
TO REBELLIOUS CHILDREN
Exodus 20:12 Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may
be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.
Proverbs 20:20 Whoso curseth his father or his mother, his lamp
shall be put out in obscure darkness.
Proverbs 30:11 There is a generation that curseth their father,
and doth not bless their mother.
Proverbs 30:17 The eye that mocketh at his father, and despiseth
to obey his mother, the ravens of the valley shall pick it out,
and the young eagles shall eat it.
Matthew 15:4 For God commanded, saying, Honour thy father and
mother: and, He that curseth father or mother, let him die the
death.
Mark 7:10. For Moses said, Honour thy father and thy mother; and,
Whoso curseth father or mother, let him die the death:
Ephesians 6:1-3
1.
Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. 2.
Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment
with promise;) 3. That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest
live long on the earth.
In Ephesians 6:4 when it says, “And, ye fathers, provoke
not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and
admonition of the Lord.” they had better do it. But if they
don’t, it doesn’t give the children the right to rebel
against God’s Word. Moreover, the previous scriptures solemnly
warn against it. I would say, that in most cases where there is
a problem between the parents and the children, that the main
gripe the children have against their parents cannot come near
the feelings of hostility that slaves have for their masters -
even in the best of cases. Read what the Bible has to say in Ephesians
6:5-8: 5. Servants, be obedient to them that are your masters
according to the flesh, with fear and trembling, in singleness
of your heart, as unto Christ; 6. Not with eyeservice, as menpleasers;
but as the servants of Christ, doing the will of God from the
heart; 7. With good will doing service, as to the Lord, and not
to men: 8. Knowing that whatsoever good thing any man doeth, the
same shall he receive of the Lord, whether he be bond or free.
If, back in the good old days, children disobedient to parents
were subject to death, I believe they could most certainly be
subject to various curses that could end up in death today. I
believe a couple of the foremost curses afflicting us today is
alcohol and drug addiction. If this is true, it sure seems to
hit the people that live life on their own terms the worse, compared
to team players. All of the various curses seem to hit people
that are full of pride, arrogance, self-will, meanness, bitterness,
liars, thieves, cheaters, etc.
If these above mentioned afflictions are diseases, (which is asserted
by the liberal side of society), then it is God that is responsible
for the manipulation of a persons genes, based on His foreknowledge
of the individual and how that person would live their life. People
will reap what they sow.
I think Romans 13:1-7 is another passage that people of all ages
should consider. “1. Let every soul be subject unto the
higher powers. For there is no power but of God: the powers that
be are ordained of God. 2. Whosoever therefore resisteth the power,
resisteth the ordinance of God: and they that resist shall receive
to themselves damnation. 3. For rulers are not a terror to good
works, but to the evil. Wilt thou then not be afraid of the power?
do that which is good, and thou shalt have praise of the same:
4. For he is the minister of God to thee for good. But if thou
do that which is evil, be afraid; for he beareth not the sword
in vain: for he is the minister of God, a revenger to execute
wrath upon him that doeth evil. 5. Wherefore ye must needs be
subject, not only for wrath, but also for conscience sake. 6.
For for this cause pay ye tribute also: for they are God's ministers,
attending continually upon this very thing. 7. Render therefore
to all their dues: tribute to whom tribute is due; custom to whom
custom; fear to whom fear; honour to whom honour.”
Any time you butt heads with your parents or government officials,
you may very well be butting heads with God. You may shake your
fist at God all you want but it won’t change a thing. As
a matter of fact it will probably only make things worse.
We are to bear whatever cross God has given us. The fact that
we are on earth is no surprise to God. He knew us before we were
born. Jeremiah 1:5, bears this out. “Before I formed thee
in the belly I knew thee; and before thou camest forth out of
the womb I sanctified thee, and I ordained thee a prophet unto
the nations.” He had His own reasons for placing us with
the parents we have. If you were wronged by anybody for whatever
reason, God will make it right in the end. He does a much better
job than we could. We can only torture and/or kill. He can curse,
(which includes a whole series of torture) and then kill them.
If it is at all possible, it is better to run away than to seek
vengeance. Romans 12:19 declares; “Dearly beloved, avenge
not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written,
Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.”
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DOES
SEX FINALIZE MARRIAGE?
There is a very strong chance that the answer is yes and I believe
the Bible teaches it. Let’s also remember that Adam and
Eve were considered husband and wife from the beginning apparently
even before having sex; much like the espousal (being a contract
to marriage) between a man and a woman. That was binding and any
harlotry by an espoused virgin would be dealt with by stoning
as written in the law. Both these institutions are very important.
The marriage ceremony itself is the civil and ceremonial part
that man uses to show that two have become one. The inward part
of that union begins when the hearts become entwined and it is
made final when the two consummate that union with sexual intercourse.
Let's make no mistake about the importance of "entwining
of the hearts." I don't know at what age it would occur,
but giving your heart to another who won’t be your spouse
only sets one up for a more complicated relationship with the
one that he or she chooses to spend the rest of their years with.
I believe too many (serious) relationships in one's life could
very well set up a pattern that leads to divorce, primarily because
the emphasis is based on sex or the "feeling of love"
and not a godly relationship.
I believe Adam and Eve were the first examples of this overall
question. Sex is what God gave them for populating the earth.
In the beginning the two became "one flesh". Question!
Were they one flesh before having sex? I think the answer is yes,
and in no way is meant to take away from the importance of that
first sexual encounter.
Is this consummating of marriage with sex man's idea or God's?
I think we can generally put it on God. However, I think in this
"age of sex” we have overlooked the importance of the
giving of one's heart to another. We tend to think today, as long
as we have not had sexual intercourse in a relationship, everything
else is okay. When all sexual activity is relegated to a pastime
pleasure, is when we get ourselves into trouble, especially in
the New Testament teaching about lusting in Matthew 5:28, James
1:14-15, and 1 Corinthians 6:12-20. Sex is a gift from God and
that is why it is so important to only use it in the way God meant
it to be used. That being in the confines of marriage for the
replenishing and subduing of the earth,
Genesis
1:28, as well as for pleasure. We tend to extol the latter.
Following are some scriptures that will shed some light on this
question.
Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother,
and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
Genesis 16:3 And Sarai Abram's wife took Hagar her maid the Egyptian,
after Abram had dwelt ten years in the land of Canaan, and gave
her to her husband Abram to be his wife.
Genesis 24:67 And Isaac brought her into his mother Sarah's tent,
and took Rebekah, and she became his wife; and he loved her: and
Isaac was comforted after his mother's death.
Genesis 29:21,30
21.
And Jacob said unto Laban, Give me my wife, for my days are fulfilled,
that I may go in unto her. 30. And he went in also unto Rachel,
and he loved also Rachel more than Leah, and served with him yet
seven other years.
Genesis 30:4 And she gave him Bilhah her handmaid to wife: and
Jacob went in unto her.
Deuteronomy 21:13 And she shall put the raiment of her captivity
from off her, and shall remain in thine house, and bewail her
father and her mother a full month: and after that thou shalt
go in unto her, and be her husband, and she shall be thy wife.
Deuteronomy 22:13-15
13.
If any man take a wife, and go in unto her, and hate her, 14.
And give occasions of speech against her, and bring up an evil
name upon her, and say, I took this woman, and when I came to
her, I found her not a maid: 15. Then shall the father of the
damsel, and her mother, take and bring forth the tokens of the
damsel's virginity unto the elders of the city in the gate:
Deuteronomy 25:5 If brethren dwell together, and one of them die,
and have no child, the wife of the dead shall not marry without
unto a stranger: her husband's brother shall go in unto her, and
take her to him to wife, and perform the duty of an husband's
brother unto her.
Ruth 4:13 So Boaz took Ruth, and she was his wife: and when he
went in unto her, the Lord gave her conception, and she bares
a son.
1 Kings 1:4 And the damsel was very fair, and cherished the king,
and ministered to him: but the king knew her not.
John 4:16-18
16.
Jesus saith unto her, Go, call thy husband, and come hither. 17.
The woman answered and said, I have no husband. Jesus said unto
her, Thou hast well said, I have no husband: 18. For thou hast
had five husbands; and he whom thou now hast is not thy husband:
in that saidst thou truly.
This seems to indicate that there is much importance in the ceremonial
part.
1 Corinthians 6:12-20
12.
All things are lawful unto me, but all things are not expedient:
all things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under
the power of any. 13. Meats for the belly, and the belly for meats:
but God shall destroy both it and them. Now the body is not for
fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body. 14.
And God hath both raised up the Lord, and will also raise up us
by his own power. 15. Know ye not that your bodies are the members
of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them
the members of an harlot? God forbid. 16. What? know ye not that
he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he,
shall be one flesh. 17. But he that is joined unto the Lord is
one spirit. 18. Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is
without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against
his own body. 19. What? Know ye not that your body is the temple
of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye
are not your own? 20. For ye are bought with a price: therefore
glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's.
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SEVEN THINGS THE LORD HATES
A
PROUD LOOK
A LYING TONGUE
HANDS THAT SHED INNOCENT BLOOD
A HEART THAT DEVISETH WICKED IMAGINATIONS
FEET THAT BE SWIFT IN RUNNING TO MISCHIEF
A FALSE WITNESS THAT SPEAKETH LIES
HE
THAT SOWETH DISCORD AMONG BRETHREN
Proverbs 6:16-19
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